1 Samuel 16:7 NKJV
“…for the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
God searches our hearts instead of looking at our appearances. Man looks at the outside of a person however, God looks at a person’s heart. What’s inside a persons heart is far more important and significant than their physical appearance or their natural abilities.
1 Timothy 2:8-10 NKJV
“I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braded hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”
Christian are to spend more time developing their inner character than attempting to make themselves look beautiful on the outside. The Bible does not condemn women who wear jewelry or fix their hair or wear nice clothes. It only emphasizes that we should be more concerned with what God thinks about us than what man thinks about us. Since God places a greater emphasis on our inside (our heart) than He does on our outside, shouldn’t we spend more time on it? A few of the “jewels” that women can adorn themselves with are: a quiet and gentle spirit, a fear of the Lord, and discretion. Each of these “jewels” will have a brilliance that will last forever – they will not fade with time or go out of style.
I. A Gentle And Quiet Spirit
Gentle means not severe, rough, or violent; mild; soft; not harsh or extreme; moderate; kindly; friendly; having or showing good manners; refined; polite; treat in a soothing way; being pleasant or pleasing. A woman that is gentle will be soft, tender, calm, kind, patient and humble. She will not be harsh, rough, violent or have bad manners.
1 Peter 3:3-4 NKJV
“Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”
II. Fear Of The Lord
Fear of the Lord is respect and reverence to God and the things of God. When we respect God we will hold Him (His thoughts, His Word, and His desires) in high regard. Respect will cause you to give honor to whom it is due therefore, if we respect God we will give Him the honor that is due unto Him. We show respect by (and through) our actions, thoughts and words. Respect for God will also cause you to esteem Him (to think highly of). When we have a reverence toward God we have a feeling of deep respect, mixed with wonder, awe, and love toward Him.
Proverbs 31:30 NKJV
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praise.”
Charm is not always what it seems to be – it has a tendency to mislead, and beauty will not be with a person forever. After awhile people who once had charm and beauty will cease to be praise by men. A woman who fears the Lord will by praised forever by man and by God. Praise means to say that a thing or a person is good. Praise is also words that tell the worth or value of a thing or person, a commendation, an expression of approval, admiration of (to admire – to look on with pleasure). In the eyes of God a woman who fears the Lord is good, valuable, approved of, and looked upon with pleasure by God.
Discretion is great carefulness in speech or action; good judgment; wise caution. A woman who lacks discretion (no matter how lovely or beautiful she is on the outside) is compared to a pig with a golden ring in its nose. A gold ring would be ridiculous on the nose of a pig.
Proverbs 11:22 NKJV
“As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout,
So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion.”
While man looks at the physical, God looks at the spiritual. God examines the very innermost part of a person.
Psalm 7:9 NKJV
“For the righteous God tests the heart and minds…”
Everything that comes out of our mouth begins on the inside (innermost part) of us.
Matthew 12:33-37 NKJV
“Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit. Brood of vipers! How can you being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings firth evil things. But I say to you that for every idle word men speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
God knows everything in our hearts – every motive, desire, dream and word, even before we express it. God will search (test, examine) each person’s heart to see what is in it. He searches our hearts so that He can help us. Like David, we too should desire for God to examine our hearts (and our thoughts) and to purge us of sin so that we may have everlasting life.
Psalm 139 : 1-24 NKJV
“O Lord, You have searched me and known me.
You know my sitting down and my rising up; You understand my thought afar off.
You comprehend my path and my lying down, And are acquainted with all my ways. For there is not a
word on my tongue,
But behold, O Lord, You know it altogether. You have hedged me behind and before,
And laid Your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is high, I cannot attain it.
Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence? If I ascend into heaven, You
are there; If I make
my bed in hell, behold, You are there. If I take the wings of the morning,
And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
Even there Your hand shall lead me,
And Your right hand shall hold me.
If I say,
‘Surely the darkness shall fall on me,’
Even the night shall be light about me; Indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You,
But the night shines as the day;
The darkness and the light are both alike to You.
For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.
I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.
How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them!
If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand; When I awake, I am still with You.
Oh, that You would
slay the wicked O God! Depart from me, therefore you bloodthirsty me.
For they speak against You wickedly; Your enemies take Your name in vain. Do I not hate them, O Lord,
who hate You? And
do I not loathe those who rise up against You? I hate them with perfect hatred; I count them my enemies. Search me, O God
, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; And see if there is any wicked way in me,
And lead me in the way everlasting.”
Thank-you that You do not look at our outward or physical appearance – You look at the spiritual. You examine the very innermost part of a person. You knows everything in my heart- every motive, desire, dream and word, even before I express it. By the power of the Holy Spirit show me my heart to see what is in it. Search my heart so that You can help me. Purge me of sin so that I may have everlasting life. Help me to spend more time developing my inner character than attempting to make myself look beautiful on the outside. Let me be more concerned with what You thinks about me than what man thinks about me. I do desire to adorn myself with a quiet and gentle spirit, a fear of the Lord, and discretion.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.